Gay Bachelor Parties Reflect Traditions of Old

There is one true universal truth about bachelor parties; you either love them or hate them. The concept of a bachelor’s party is believed to stem from the combination of two distinctly different traditions. The most recent is the Spartan tradition of gathering with comrades for an evening of drinking and feasting to celebrate the end of single life. Spartan soldiers would toast their groom-to-be comrade and often tell stories at his expense.

The Spartan pre-wedding feast celebration was intended to solidify old allegiances before the groom entered into loyalties with other families and associations. At the dinner feast the groom would often pledge his allegiance to the comrades of his youth. Yet, there are even older origins of the common day bachelor party, the stag’s rite of passage.

This ritual involved men of nobility who where about to embark upon marriage. To ensure his fertility he would conquer the “stag” the evening before his wedding day. Often clad in horns and even blood the man would be led to the chosen female after an evening of drinking and worship. Still today bachelor parties are referred to as stag parties. But times have changed and so have the rules of marriage.

Today same sex marriage is now legal in nine states and many bachelors will not be celebrating their “stag” night with local “female entertainers.” Instead a gay soon-to-be-groom can enjoy a non-traditional farewell to the single life celebration. Despite the fact that in a gay marriage there are two grooms both are entitled to their separate farewell party. And the host of each party has a responsibility to the groom to make sure that all activities correspond with the wishes of the groom and his partner. Some couples today even choice to have a united bachelor party but again this must be the couple’s decision.

An idea that is catching on for Gay bachelor parties is a cigar party. Cigar parties can be held in a cigar bar or at a member of the wedding party’s home. They offer a gay man an opportunity to gather together with friends and celebrate in style.

Many online facilities now sell cigar samplers which is a great way to provide a variety of cigars to your guests. You can choice a variety to sample or ask each guest to bring a cigar which can be placed in a hat and passed out at the party. Serve foods that are not excessively rich such as cheeses, fruit and dark chocolates along with plenty of wine and imported beers. Allow all the guests to come in and have a bite to eat and a drink or two before they select a cigar, starting with the bachelor of course.

If the bachelor is looking for something a little more risqué there is an emerging trend that both women and gay men can enjoy, costume parties. But be certain to tell the guests that this is not the standard trick or treat affair. Online costume representatives can give you various ideas to point guests in right direction. But ultimately the guests should come adorned in sexy costumes that can range from lingerie to sailor suits and almost anything in-between. Costumes can be as naughty as the bachelor and guests feel comfortable with and toys and adult novelty items can be brought as gifts to compliment the bachelor party theme.

It is also appropriate to orchestrate a themed gay bachelor costume party. Popular themes include a Las Vegas, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, party as well as a western cowboy theme.

The ideas for gay bachelor parties are as diverse as the couples that are being united in droves under the new same sex marriage laws. As long as both partners are comfortable with the evening’s activities it is sure to be a success. So celebrate the end of the single life with style no matter if that means dressing up in chaps and a cowboy hat or smoking a new found favorite stogie or both.